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Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer

Yep. This really happened.

P!NK Tributegate covered in The Epoch Times!!

While the battle is long over, the scars are still fading. The conversation is long overdue and change in the legal system (and how the media reports on it) is essential.

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Much thanks to reporter Kevin Hogan for treating my story with respect. On the cover of The Epoch Times story is me with the cover of The New York Post.

I wanted to bring attention to The Epoch Times use of the New York Post photo of me… also taken by Byron Smith…who was hired to take a photograph to suit the needs of the N.Y. Post and how they wanted to spin the story. The Epoch Times’ use of The NY Post image is protected under fair use.

Just as the images in Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer are also protected.

I just felt this was important to point out. This is my experience. My story. I’ll only stop speaking out when I want to… not because of anyone who wants to silence me or silence any portion of my experience.

Kevin did a great job with this article and I’m honored I got to be a part of such an important conversation!

https://m.theepochtimes.com/lawsuit-abuse-a-growing-costly-problem_3171850.html

Please welcome New York Post photographer to “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” !!! We’ve made it, fam.

Hello to all of three people who have read this long, forgotten blog that went from fairly obscure to really, really obscure in the past couple years. We have a fourth reader.

That fourth reader is New York Post photographer Byron Smith!! I’m frankly a little flattered. I won’t show you his photo because he has implied he doesn’t like that too much.

Fair enough. I’m a reasonable person so I took the photo of him down. He requested that I take the photo of me in the purple dress down, than added that he has been awarded up to $20,000 in the past for copyright infringement.

WordPress wrote to me , however, and stated that they believe it falls under fair use. I believe WordPress on the matter, so I am keeping the photo of me up. Upon sharing the correspondence to many media, photography and legal professionals this morning I have been told that my use of this photo is a “textbook definition” of fair use:

“Under Sections 106, 106A, and 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, the Fair Use Clause of the Act permits the use of excerpts from news outlets, books, periodicals, live musical performances, blogs, social media, and public figures, and is protected by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing.

“Allowance for fair use is made for purposes such as criticism, comment, comparison, satire/parody, news reporting, teaching, social/political/scientific awareness, scholarship, or research in which no copyright is intended or claimed by Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer.

NON-PROFIT, EDUCATIONAL OR PERSONAL USE TIPS THE BALANCE IN FAVOR OF FAIR USE.”

The truth is Byron Smith’s photo of me is paramount to telling my story. It is essential.  He took dozens of photos of me in different outfits yet knew that he had “the one” when he had me pose on the stairs. For this reason, I believe he was acting in concert with the paper to craft the fictitious story of the girl who got sued for being “old and ugly”.  It was 2014 at the time, this is just how women were treated on a daily basis by the media. Times are different now, but there is still a bit of a cultural hangover from those mid evil times, so it’s a story worth telling.

The treatment of my story falls under a vast umbrella: the constant non stop shaming of women in the media (Especially those who dare to sing over the age of 35) for simply existing. I believe that if my lawsuit had happened today in 2019, The NY Post would not have written the same story. I believe the story would have revolved around the two men, as it did in real life. I believe Byron would have treated me respectfully as a subject in 2019.

Byron Smith’s photo is essential to tell the full story.

Through telling my story honestly I seek to 1) criticize 2) comment 3) compare 4) teach 5) contribute to social awareness and detail why the birth of body positivity, age positivity and looks acceptance are so crucial to society.

I would like to invite Byron to share his own perspective on the matter publicly here on Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer. One of the things that kept me from going over the edge from the depression I endured at the hands of the lawsuit and The NY Post was this blog. Writing saved my life. All I could do was be honest about my story.

I would also like to invite Byron to contact the NY Post to take the four stories they wrote about me down and take the “purple dress photo” off their website. Yes the photos he took that had the caption “too old and ugly gal”, along with my full name under the photo… If that happens, I will take my photo down and we will call it a day.

I would like to invite the New York Post to write the REAL story regarding P!NK Tribute Gate and erase the old one. I would like to invite Byron Smith over to take a real photo of me that isn’t meant to serve a sensationalized and false headline.

You guys can do it, I have faith in you. Also, the last person who ended up threatening me with legal action when they had no grounds ended up paying $15,000 out of pocket because he wasted my time. Please don’t be like that guy.

I don’t really settle things quietly when I am within my legal rights, so I hope Byron will accept my challenge. Thanks for reading!

“Between Two Jobs” Podcast with Adam P Murphy!

Recently, I had the pleasure of joining Adam P Murphy on his podcast “Between Two Jobs” talking about the valleys between the peaks when working as a creative professional.

In my case we discuss the lawsuit, tabloid media and the crazy events that put my life on hold back in 2014. And of course, we talk about “Confession of a Bad, Ugly Singer”, the book! (As opposed to this years old blog that somehow y’all are still finding. I first met Adam when he was doing a show at the Parkside Lounge and then later reconnected with him in the film “Return To Nuke Em High”.

Even cooler, if you go to his podcast and check out the episode before mine, he interviews one of the guys from Celebrity Death Match!!!

First chapter of “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” is available to read for free at Vocal.media!

Hey guys, it’s been a minute since I’ve check in on the blog. Enjoying my summer. I’ll be working on a second edition of the book sometimes this year. Until then, here is a free chapter of the first edition! I’m also over on Quora a lot these days.

https://criminal.media/confessions-of-a-bad-ugly-singer

If you have the book and you have constructive feedback I am all ears!

 

 

Peace,

Collette

“Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” the book turns one years old!

Greetings and salutations! I haven’t been on this blog for a hot minute. I feel it might make sense to eventually create content here at some point.

It’s a little crazy seeing some of these old posts. I was non stop stressed out for two years with the lawsuit and media… I had kind of lost my mind. Ok, not kind of… I flat out lost my shit. But I’m OK with that. Anyone in my position would have done the same.

I haven’t posted a whole lot because I have been without a laptop for almost a year! I was glued to my laptop during litigation so I’m cool with that. Maybe it’s time to get a computer again.

It’s been pretty crazy wrapping my head around being a published author. “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” the book is now a year old! Now that I have some distance from it, I see so many things I want to change. My mom likes to point out I repeat myself a lot. From a literary standpoint, I know the book can be better. There is absolutely an option to work on a second edition. I’m torn between promoting the one that is out now and taking a step back to make it tighter.

Its funny hearing little tidbits from readers. Many people agree that the silence of the P!NK camp is a little shocking. I’m glad it’s not just me! I can’t escape P!NK… she is everywhere!

One thing is for certain. I came out the other side. Sometimes it felt as if I never would. I sent a book to Carey Hart. It was rejected and sent back to Amazon. I also sent one to Roger Davies Management, P!NK’s mom and Eva Gardner. I believe in my heart if they really knew how serious all this was, somebody would say something.

The book that was sent to P!NK’s mom was forwarded a couple times and ended up in Sarasota.

A coworker of mine who is an astrologist did a read on my chart. Apparently it was in the cards for me to experience an “extreme loss of identity”. She showed me some crazy shit on a website that detailed that it would be a scary transition, but Ok once I landed.

There were so many times I wondered if P!NK Tributegate had any meaning at all… or if it was just a random event to live on from. She assured me that it does indeed have meaning, will tie into my life’s work and will evolve in a more positive ways ahead. She said my story arc is about half way over.

Collette’s Law is back to the drawing board. Luis Sepulveda is now in the Senate and we weren’t able to get past the Trial Lawyers’ Lobby… so I am figuring out how to revisit my advocacy work. It would have been huge had it passed. What matters is I tried and took a stand.

My book was pitched to Ian Anderson at the New York Post. Ian’s response after reading the back cover: You realize I work at The New York Post right? Classic.

For the first time in my life I have not sang very much. I miss it. The book took so much focus, I took a long break. I decided to just focus on getting inspired again.

I still live in New York City. I still want to go to Austin or Nashville or Knoxville but I still feel there is unfinished business here!

That’s it in a nutshell. Thank you to everyone who got the book!

Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer is available for pre-sale in the UK!!!

It’s been a hot minute since I have been on the blog. The good news is that I moved on with my life. The bad news is that P!NK Tributegate will never completely go away. It is forever a part of me and every once in a while I will have to dust it off to psychologically

 

“Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” went on pre-sale today in the UK!!! It is available at Waterstone Books and if you would consider buying it I will name my first newborn or next cat after you. Thank you to those who stood by me during such a fucked up time!!! Thank you to Jeff Schmidt from NY Creative, Teddie Dahlin from New Haven Publishing and Bruce Caines for a BOMB cover photo!!! See y’all on the flipside.

Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer (Paperback)

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Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer (Paperback)

In April of 2014, former edibleRed vocalist Collette McLafferty had the shock of her life when a gig in a P!NK cover band dragged her into a $10,000,000 lawsuit. The Plaintiff, a personal injury attorney who once played drums for Michael Bolton, had a dispute with her band leader claiming he stole the lawyer’s idea to start Long Island’s first P!NK cover band. Although she had never met the attorney and was only a “hired gun” in the group, McLafferty found herself named in the 112-page complaint. Stunned to learn she could be in a years-long court battle for singing “Raise Your Glass” at a Long Island Bar, Collette made the difficult decision to take her case to the press. She made a late night phone call to The New York Post in hopes of leaving a message. To her surprise, a copy boy was eating lunch at the Tip Desk during the graveyard shift. Sympathetic to her situation, he knew he had a big story on his hands and promised to pitch it the next morning. Although the dispute was mostly between the two men, Collette woke up to the headline “Singer Sued for Being Too Old and Too Ugly for P!NK Cover band” in the paper. The sensationalized headline told a story of a singer who was so “old, ugly and untalented” that her one-night performance prompted the lawyer to sue. This “fake news” version of events went viral worldwide, garnering coverage in Time, Yahoo News and Breitbart. The former MTV “Buzzworthy” artist was dismayed to see her online reputation unceremoniously destroyed as highlights from her 20-year professional history were suddenly buried under pages of career-ending click bait. The headlines alleged she”ruined” the P!NK cover band with her inferior looks and singing, triggering a deep depression. Determined to find justice, McLafferty fought the case and eventually introduced “Collette’s Law” with the help of The Lawsuit Reform Alliance of New York and Assemblyman Luis Sepulveda. “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” documents the emotional two-year journey of navigating the legal system, while embarking on a quest to clear her name.

Publisher: New Haven Publishing Ltd
ISBN: 9781912587001
Number of pages: 300

Before I turn off “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer”.

I’m going to turn off “Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer” in a couple more days. It just feels like the right thing to do… for now. I’m about to get my hair cut. I don’t want any of the same hair on my head that was present during the lawsuit. I want a fresh start. I wish I could say that this is 100% behind me forever, but the truth is it is my identity now  and there is no escaping it. Almost every time I go out, it comes up. It even affected my dating life. Last year, I was heavily pursued by someone. Things were going pretty well and we started dating. One day, on a date,  he told me that one of his work colleagues announced in front of his co-workers that he was dating the “girl who was sued for being too ugly”. Shortly after, this man who had pursued me denied that he had ever really liked me like that in the first place and that we were never dating.

Charming.

I’d love to shrug it off and say his loss (which it is) and pretend like it’s not a big deal.

It’s a big deal. I still want the truth out.

Crazy to think the massive domino effect that a complete stranger could have on my life.

Every part of my life.

Thanks, Chuck,

Taking down Confessions of a Bad, Ugly Singer in a week… so read up while you can.

Hey guys, I’m going to leave up this blog for another week and then take it down for a bit. When I started this blog I was pretty fucking traumatized.

I was also quite drunk.

Everything that went down in 2014 was so weird, so stressful, so bizarre that there was no way I was going through it sober. I didn’t really drink excessively, but I’d have one or two drinks every day to help process everything that was going on. I would go into the day time bars and tell the bartender everything that had happened.

Yes, I was that girl drinking in the daytime, telling the bartender her problems. Fortunately, the story was as fascinating and even at times funny while being completely violating at the same time.  Anyone can listen to this story once. I had to tell it 1000 times just to process that “yep, this really happened.”. Don’t worry, I rotated my bars, so no bartender would have to live through hearing it multiple times (feedback has it that it’s less riveting after you’ve heard it 20 times).

I was pretty pissed off, which I think we can all agree was understandable. 

This blog was the work of a pretty stressed out, pissed off and mildly drunk girl working out her own trauma for the world to see. Since the trauma was induced in front of the whole world, I believe it’s appropriate to talk about.

Things are different now. I wake up at 5AM and I am living pretty zen/clean living these days. I have substantially less anger because life needs to go on.  I also am not the only one that needs to heal from this. I got some shit from a small handful of people who gave me shit for my act of forgiveness. To be honest, it wasn’t an overnight thing. I had a pretty heavy duty “decompressing” period of several months.

I no longer relate to the person who needs to write this blog to survive. I may edit the blog, I may delete it. I might put it back up. I’ll be working on the book, so I’ll probable pull some stuff form the blog into the book. . Read up while you can.

New Vlog: Behind the scenes with The New York Post.

I recently started working on my once neglected Youtube channel. I decided to go more in depth to talk about my experiences with the media and the “fake news” element of P!NK Tributegate.

Fake news is a hot button topic and it is everywhere. While I love blogging and writing, sometimes it’s hard to get the full picture of the story without the inflection of the human voice. Now that the lawsuit is over and “Collette’s Law” is making some traction, I still feel a strong urge to keep exposing the media aspect of this story. So much of what we consume in media is blatantly false, yet has such an influence on our society.

I’m revisiting my album “42”. When I started on it almost two years ago it was just a collection of songs. The album is going to have more of an emphasis on my overall journey with the legal system and media. I’ll be posting some songs and snippets over there. Come join me!

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